Midweek randomness

I took yesterday off work because Ricky had to get his four year shots. I was dreading this for a variety of reasons- noone likes to think of something hurting their child no matter how much for the greater good it is! I wasn’t sure before we went whether to warn him about the fact he’d need injections, but as it happened, he asked me why we were going to the dr’s, as he wasn’t sick, and I kind of blurted it out.

He wasn’t a bit happy about it- “but Mummy, WHY will they need to put the needle in me? Why? WHY?!!” and, as always with Ricky, there was a bit of wailing and shrieking about it. I explained that it was only for a second and that it would hardly hurt, and that it was to protect him from getting sick.

The health visitor wouldn’t give him the MMR jab, because of my ongoing chemotherapy- apparently live vaccines can affect it? So, we will have the very special joy of a repeat visit in the summer so he can get that one then. He still got all the other bits and pieces he needed.

Ricky can be incredibly high maintenance, so I was expecting something of a meltdown when the health visitor gave him the injection, but actually he was perfectly fine and didn’t bat an eyelid. He was more concerned with the fact that I’d told him he could have his choice of pudding after dinner for being such a big brave boy- apparently bribery will get you everywhere with small boys! (He went for mint choc chip ice cream, in case you wanted to know! πŸ˜€ )

The health visitorΒ did an assessment on Ricky. He’s perfectly in proportion- just very tall and sturdy, but she had no concerns about his weight which was great to hear- as a smaller child, he got to be a bit chubby. I insisted on getting a referral to a consultant about it, and we dealt with it, but it’s still a relief to hear it’s no longer an issue. Sometimes it’s easy to look at your kids with rose tinted glasses and not see things which are clear to other people!

She wasn’t happy with his speech. He still isn’t crystal clear at times- we discussed it with the teacher at his nursery school recently and she said it was all age appropriate and that she had no concerns, but the health visitor seems to disagree. I personally thought she was being a bit hard on him- she started talking about referrals to specialists. It’s mainly that when she asked him to tell her what various images were, one of them was a spoon, and he dropped the “s” when saying it. He hasn’t done this for ages!! Typical!

It made me wonder again about the rose tinted glasses though. I said I didn’t want a referral at the moment because I felt his speech wasn’t as bad as she was making out, and his normal teacher, who deals with him on a daily basis, says it’s fine and all age appropriate. But when I think about other kids I know Ricky’s age (Leigh’s daughter Sophie, for example) and how perfectly clear their speech is, I wonder if I am doing him a huge disservice here.

Emma C- if you are reading this, what are your thoughts? You work with kids Ricky’s age every day- should I get the referral? Please be brutally honest!

I don’t want to be one of those mothers who ignores potential problems with their child’s development on the grounds that their little darling is “as bright as a button”- but on the other hand, I don’t want to make a huge song and dance over this for Ricky’s sake if it’s something which will resolve itself quickly.

The health visitor was also giving me grief about the fact that Robbie still isn’t sleeping through the night most of the time. She wanted to know what I’d tried and I told her pretty much everything except for crying it out, which I’m not going to do. Health visitors here are (in my experience) very keen on letting them cry at night, and I could see her preparing “the speech”… πŸ˜€ I just try and head them off at the pass- it’s not worth a big row with them, so I just say I’m not interested in doing it and would rather have less sleep. They think I’m insane, I feel defensive, same old, same old! **rolls eyes** Everyone is entitled to their own opinion… πŸ˜€

So, kind of an unsatisfactory appointment in all. Hmm.


Robbie moved into the toddler room in daycare. He’s having a great time so far, but I get the impression that the girls who look after him in there don’t think he’s quite the little angel that the ladies in the baby room did.

Yesterday, Robbie, who is something of a “climber”, managed to climb onto a full-height sink unit in the corner of the toddler room, turn on both taps, and soak four other toddlers and three staff members before he could be caught and subdued…

Robbie remained bone dry during this assault. πŸ˜€


My friend and all round Superwoman crisitunity has been giving me some tips on cooking with tofu, which have been really useful as I try and get to grips with a more meat free life. I’m cooking asian greens, shiitake mushrooms and noodles for dinner tonight, and have some tofu marinating in the fridge in a mixture of white wine, sesame oil, lime, soy sauce, garlic and ginger. If that can’t get some flavour into the stuff, I can’t think what will! I have marinated some chicken for Ian the same way, and hope I will not feel too envious when I dish up tonight.

Thanks to crisitunity for all the help- it will taste better for it, I know! πŸ˜‰


Chest infection update- still there and making me sound very husky. I think callers to my work today think they accidentally dialled an 0845 number. Maybe I could try and set up something on the side, I could use the extra money… πŸ˜€

I really hope the thing is gone by next Tuesday when I am meant to get the last chemo session. Fingers crossed!

My hair is really, really growing back! I am so excited! I reckon another month or so, and I can leave the scarves off, weather permitting.

I think that’s about it for now! If you read it all, you get the prize!! πŸ˜€

15 Responses to “Midweek randomness”

  1. 1 Jo
    January 15, 2009 at 12:28 pm

    Prize please!

    (if it involves Robbie and a sink, no thanks!)

    You have been sent an imaginary gold star… πŸ˜€

  2. 2 Leigh
    January 15, 2009 at 2:09 pm

    Health visitors – gggrrr !!! If its not one issue its another, Ricky is bright as a button, I think for me his teacher who sees him every day would have more clout in terms of their opinion. Our health visitor had us panicking from one thing to another ( weight loss to a big head !!). Soph didnt sleep well either and you know I am 100 % behind NOT crying it out, we wouldnt do it either and it was us who are sleep deprived ( we made the smae choice as you) I would never have Soph crying herself to sleep – how rotten !!
    Robbie – I love him so much, what stealth & agility xx
    That marinade sounds delicious, I have never had tofu, ever, must try it.
    I wil be keeping everything crossed that the chest infection buggers off for Tuesday even if that does mean an end to any potential future in the “Chat” industry xx
    Fab news on the hair !!

    Well, that’s kind of what I was thinking but as I say, sometimes you wonder if you’re doing the best thing. Sophie, big headed???? You really have to wonder where they get it from sometimes…

    Tofu- the secret seems to be to get as much water out of it before marinating it. I was advised to pack it between kitchen roll sheets and stack a can on top of it- and it did the trick!

  3. January 15, 2009 at 2:51 pm

    Aww, thanks! But I have been seriously not living up to my bluster because I haven’t sent you any recipes. The marinade sounds delicious and I hope your guys will eat it happily!

    Thank YOU for all your help! πŸ™‚ I hope it will be nice!

  4. January 15, 2009 at 3:14 pm

    If somebody was teaching MY wife to cook with tofu, I’d be sending angry emails. πŸ˜‰

    Ian is resolutely refusing to have anything to do with it.

    With Ricky, it’s hard to say. Some kids just suddenly snap out of it, and some don’t. My son is 9 and still has some troubles doing his L’s and R’s (minor Elmer Fuddism going on) – he’s really too old for it and he’s getting speech to work on it. And he really hates going to speech.

    At 4, I wouldn’t say it’s a huge concern at all. It’s just hard to say which kids will grow out of it and which won’t without some help.

    Yeah, it’s just really hard to know. Sigh. Maybe I should take the referral and then they could advise me. I just don’t want HIM to feel like there’s a big issue, KWIM?

  5. January 15, 2009 at 3:45 pm

    I’ll have a prize as well, if you’re handing them out!

    I fully sympathise and empathise – both my children have had all their injections, and each and every time was hard. One time I even took a friend to hold the baby for me! Or to hold me if I passed out, whichever was needed more!

    Best wishes for a speedy recovery and the end of your chemo. I’m looking forward to seeing a cute ‘pixie crop’ hairdo in a few weeks!

    More virtual stars for the Welsh contingent! πŸ˜€ I don’t know how long it will be before I reveal my new hair. I will most likely wait until it’s coloured, lol!

  6. 6 Kim
    January 15, 2009 at 3:54 pm

    Well I too have a doctor’s appointment today and I think tonight I will also reward myself with mint chocolate chip ice cream; that’s a very good policy.
    Happy for new hair!

    Mint choc chip ice cream may just be the answer to all the world’s problems. πŸ˜€

  7. 7 welshpurpletree
    January 15, 2009 at 5:15 pm

    Can I have a prize too?

    I couldn’t face taking either of my two for their injections, hubby had to do it. I sat in the waiting room quivering. My two didn’t bat an eyelid. Oliver’s still got some to come though. I’m not sure who my HV is, they keep changing them.

    Hope your chest infection clears up soon.

    Sure- here ya go- got it? Good. πŸ™‚

    I think the anticipation is worse than the actual injection!

  8. January 15, 2009 at 5:30 pm

    While most docs tell you the MMR doesn’t shed, it does. I have heard many times whre parents of children getting the MMR are told to stay away from chemo patients and those with suppressed immune systems. I’m glad the health nurse caught that.

    As for speach, at least here unless it’s really severe they don’t bother with much until age 7. Most kids “catch up” by then. I really wouldn’t worry too much.

    I’m not worried- but then I am wondering if I should be!

  9. January 15, 2009 at 6:29 pm

    I commented on the “ricky appt” on the board.

    I did want to share a giggle about Robbies antics. oh my!

    woo hoo…about the hair growth.

    I do hope you are feeling better soon. I just came down with a cold and I am babying myself. πŸ™‚

    Get well soon, Corey! ((hugs))

  10. 10 Patricia Watson
    January 15, 2009 at 6:54 pm

    Hi Suzy – for what my tuppence ha’penny’s worth, and having raised three sons and a daughter and having a helping hand with six grandchildren so far, my experience has been that little fellows are much slower than girls of the same age – in everything, including speech. We still use words like pimatu (tomato), piscetti (spagetti). bawgued (broken) and our eldest son didn’t get a tooth till 14 months or walk till he was 26 months! Yet he has turned out to be a fine intelligent articulate man (of course, I am a bit biased!)

    I remember you told me that before! πŸ™‚ Ricky’s silliest word at the moment is “sepetal” instead of “separate”!

  11. 11 Emma C
    January 15, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    I had my reply already rolling off my tongue, or finger, before you mentioned me. ” A wee poon”, heard it before! This may sound awful but it’s what we call ‘imature speech’, goes away with age and without intervention. Not wanting to offend anyone, but from experience health visitors ETC, don’t always know best only because they have to follow their guidlines and don’t necessarily have a lot of experience of working with children at a practical level. Believe your Nursery teacher! She is more likely to have
    more experience and also if she was finding Ricky difficult to understand would be identifying it this time of year as it can become frustrating for us if we can’t understand! At the moment we have a child (with imature speech)that the speech Therapist has refered as possible
    autism,we not seeing any indicators other than a society that has become intolerant…. take from that what you will!

    Thanks Emma- very reassuring! His teacher says he is understandable (he most definitely IS) and that she is not concerned. I really appreciate your feedback!

  12. January 15, 2009 at 11:55 pm

    I’m glad Ricky handled the injections like a trooper. He’s a big, tough guy. I was thinking that 4 seems too young to worry about his speech as well, I swear I couldn’t understand a word my friend Lea’s daughter Emily said until she was 6 and it seemed like it was an overnight thing. One day she was talking gibberish and the next day came these rolling perfectly clear sentences. But like TB said, it’s hard to know which kid is going to progress at what rate. You know him best and the teacher that sees him every day knows him better than the health visitor so I would trust both of your judgement first.

    Robbie just made my day. Soaking people sounds like something I would do, actually. πŸ˜‰

    I’ve tried to like tofu. I really have. I just don’t. I hope you have better luck with it with crisitunity’s help!

    The tofu was fine, but I made the mistake of pinching a bit of Ian’s chicken when I was serving up, and it was a lot nicer. One day at a time!!! πŸ˜›

  13. 13 Bernadette
    January 16, 2009 at 12:47 am

    Suzy children Ricky’s age can have what I’ve heard described as a racing of ideas. They are absorbing so much because they are on a huge learning curve still at that age. They are attempting to respond verbally to all thats going on round them and in the process sometimes miss the correct pronounciation. They grow out of it and anyway listening to you speaking to them, their speech will be fine.
    Well done Robbie !! – that is so funny

    Robbie was apparently delighted with himself! πŸ˜€

  14. 14 Valerie
    January 17, 2009 at 3:13 am

    Suzy- Glad Ricky did great wit his injections even though the appt didnt go so well. I would agree with everyone else and not worry about it yet. you seem to have a handle on it already and wouldnt take it from someone that only sees him for a few minutes.

    As for the sleeping issues some day you wont want them to sleep so much (when they are teenagers) and you will be glad you did what you believed! I know that crying it out doesnt work for all kids either. Jonathan it took twice (for about 5 min each) but Evan would just get more upset and wake more so we never tried it again.

    As for Robbie- way to go kid!!! Thats my kinda kid. πŸ™‚ I would have been asking what took them so long to get to him???

    That is great your hair is growing back in- cant wait to see pics! Also I hope the chest cold gets better! Good luck with the tofu thing! I have only had it once and it was mixed with some stuff that you couldnt even tell that it was tofu!

    Robbie is like greased lightning when he climbs. The kids has a career ahead of him in rock climbing!

  15. January 17, 2009 at 4:33 am

    The injections are always a not-so-fun time around the MTAE household. Everyone was much better this time around. Ice cream does indeed do the trick.

    I don’t want to say not too worry about the speech issues, but the medical people are looking for negatives and not positives. They are looking for the bad things. You will know when there is an issue. Every kids is different. You can do a lot of this work yourself with some patience and love.


    I’m going to give it a couple of months, as his speech is improving all the time. I’ll go back to the health visitor then and see if she still thinks there is a problem. We’ll work on it more at home.

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