Archive for March, 2008


Supper Makes ‘Em Sleep!

My kids have both been very poor sleepers. Ricky, we made a SHED load of mistakes with, so we’re really keen not to make the same mistakes again with Robbie!

With that goal, we’ve been working on the first phase of “Operation Bottle Removal” with Robbie. He only learned to use a bottle at seven months, having been exclusively breast fed until then, and it was a struggle to get him to use one. Recently, he’s been waking every couple of hours at night and expecting to be fed. This happened with Ricky too, to the point where it really was a huge problem and we let it run on way, way too long. Getting Ricky to step down firstly to water in a bottle at night and then from a bottle to a sippy cup took far too long and I am ashamed of how poorly we handled it.

SO- we decided that we would take affirmative action with Robbie now that he is weaned. About three nights ago, we stepped down from milk to water at night. Not a peep out of him. We can’t believe it. Ricky cried and cried every night for about two months when we did it with him. Robbie has a much more placid personality than Ricky, so it’s such a RELIEF that this has gone well!

Next stage will be to move him onto a sippy at night. We need to work on getting him to exclusively drink from a sippy during the day, but I feel we’re heading in the right direction. 🙂

Now that Robbie is not getting any “food” at night any more, we’ve introduced supper into his evening routine. With Ricky, it never even occured to us to try this until I was in hospital with an ear infection, and the girl in the bed opposite me suggested we try it. Ricky immediately started to sleep better at night once he was given either a bowl of cereal or a couple of rounds of toast and a glass of milk before bed. We couldn’t believe we hadn’t thought of something so obvious ourselves!

We’re still in early days with Robbie’s new routine, but I can report that he SLEPT RIGHT THROUGH last night for the first time since last August!!!!!

May this PLEASE been a sign of better sleep to come!! Well done, little guy!!!!!


I have the bestest partner. I really do!

I’m not posting this for any particular reason. It’s just occuring to me now, as I sit in my jammies, drinking a little glass of red wine and surfing the net on HIS laptop, whilst HE cooks me dinner, that I just have the most wonderful man and I am seriously a very, very lucky girl.

Ian is a wonderful, caring, funny, sexy man, the most fantastic, hands on father, a great cook, confidante, my best friend…all of these things. He works so hard, far too hard, and yet always comes home with hugs for the kids, a kiss for me and a smile on his face. Well, most of the time anyway… 🙂

I couldn’t live with a relationship that wasn’t 50/50 all the way. We do 50% of the housework each, share totally the responsibility of having children, make all our decisions together, and financially everything is evenly split between us. I have never wanted to be in a position where I can’t stand on my own two feet, but I am glad that we always help each other out with everything.

He’s been so supportive to me through the years, and I love him for all he has done to keep our family happy and healthy.

We’ll celebrate 12 years together in April. We have never married and I am not sure that it will be on the cards in the medium term (though I would marry him like a shot) but he is absolutely my life partner and my love.

I don’t think I mention him enough on here. That’s how it happens sometimes, isn’t it? The kids take over everything (quite right, too) and your relationship can all too easily fall by the wayside. I have been guilty of this, and I want to make it up to him.

I know he’ll never, ever read this (blogs and internet communities are SO not his thing…only mine, ha ha!) but I wanted to go on record as saying that I am very blessed to have such a wonderful man.

This is a favourite picture from last summer!



We’re offically finished with breastfeeding

The title says it all. I think it’s been about five or six days. I don’t know exactly how long and I am glad that I didn’t know it was going to be the last time. It would have been very emotional and upsetting if I had.

He’s still asking occasionally, but not very hard, and to be honest, whilst I wish it could have been a more organic process, it might not be a bad thing for me and Robbie. Ian might get a look in for starters. He and Robbie are bonding much more these days and I sometimes feel like my breastfeeding has got in the way of that a bit.

Anyhow…sigh…ten months is pretty good going, and I’m proud of my achievement.

Plus at last, at long last, I can finally take Sudafed for this fecking sinus infection!!!! Woo-hoo!!! 😀

Can I just pass on my major thanks to all my girls from the Common Ground for their love, help and advice during the last ten months. If I didn’t know you all, the chances are I might not even have tried to breast feed after the disastrous time I had with Ricky. You know who you are, and I love you!


Yikes! A rat!

I was mucking out my horses at the weekend, and when I started to muck out Morning’s stable, I found, to my horror, a dead rat!

The poor thing had obviously died at the hands of my favourite pony- there was evidence of stamping- and it had then been covered in a large pile of hay as if she was hiding the evidence! Morning is clearly not a fan!

I was very surprised that she killed it- horses are normally very passive creatures and I’ve never seen her act in an agressive manner in the 21 years I have owned her. I trust this pony 100% with my very small children (who regularly hug her legs, pull her tail, etc etc!), and can honestly say I have had some of the best moments of my life with her. I have to admit that I am looking at her with new eyes though!

It’s highly unlikely that she just stood on it by accident. Horses are very sensitive and stand on surprisingly few things without meaning to. I can only imagine that this hapless animal was trying to eat her food and she didn’t appreciate it.

In my experience, the ONLY motivating factor when it comes to horses is food. So, you come between my girl and her dinner, you gonna face the consequences, buddy!!!! 😀

Here is a picture of the murderer, Song of Morning. She is an old girl of 26 now, and one of the great loves of my life! 🙂 I forgive her!



Happy Easter!

It’s now 7.15am and the kids are already covered from head to toe in chocolate!

Don’t worry though, they’ve been up since 6am and I made them eat their breakfast first, lol!

Ricky had his boiled eggs dyed yellow from gorse flowers and thought it was hilarious.

Robbie is eating chocolate for the first time ever and, unsurprisingly, it’s the first thing in the past few weeks that he hasn’t felt the need to continually thrown on the floor from his highchair… 🙂

Have a happy easter, whatever you’re doing and wherever you are!


Brutally aware of getting older!

I’m heading towards my mid thirties. Yeah, not so old just yet, but things are definitely not working like they used to all of a sudden!

I am suddenly aware that there’s a good reason you don’t see someone over a certain age sitting with their legs curled under them in their armchair, my previous favourite way to sit. If I do that for more than ten minutes these days, it takes me about half an hour to get up and another ten minutes to hobble to the bathroom while my legs try and get back in action.

Also, my hands!!! Where did all those veins come from?? Are those little freckles REALLY the beginnings of liver spots? How did this happen?

When I look in the mirror, I still see (blindly and foolishly) a girl of, oh, maybe 23 or so, who still weighs less than the average school bus and who doesn’t have crow’s feet the size of Europe.

I wonder what I’ll see ten years from now? Maybe I will post then, yearning for the day when I was 32. Actually, I’m sure of it!

I’m not sad- goodness knows I did ALL the living I could have done in my youth, and I don’t regret a thing- just incredulous! 😀


Some Random Stuff About Me

I saw this on someone else’s blog and thought I would post it for fun. I hope some of my friends will do the same! 🙂 It’s pretty random but I am a bit bored in work- noone’s phone systems seem to need much work this close to the Easter hols, ha ha!

Some Relationship Questions-

Q: Would you give cheater a second change?
I never have in the past, but my previous longest relationship was only a year long and he was a complete pillock. Ian and I have been together for twelve years next month. I do think the situation is (I hope) totally hypothetical!! However, if he cheated, I would have a really, really tough time forgiving him. To me, that is pretty much the ultimate in trust abuse. It’s very hard for me to know what way I would jump. If I found out he’d been seeing someone on a regular basis behind my back, it would definitely be over for us. If he went out with his mates, had too much to drink and got off with some random stranger, I’d be furious and very, very upset, but I honestly don’t know what I would do. Hmmmm.

Q: Would you move because of Love?
Well…it would need to be for very good reasons, and I’d need to have more than just love to move for, like a really great job to go to, or much better living conditions. If Ian turned round to me tomorrow and announced he wanted to move, I’d have to look at it carefully and we would have to make the decision together.

Q: Would you rather have a good looking boyfriend that’s stupid or a ugly one who’s smart?
Ugly one that’s smart, as long as he’s also funny and on my wavelength. Smart can be overrated sometimes. Though- I must be very shallow, but if I am being honest, I’d find it hard to have a long term relationship with someone that I wasn’t physically attracted to. OK, shoot me now! I know that isn’t very politically correct! 😀

Q: Do you want kids?
Well, I certainly must do…I’ve got two! 🙂 I’m the luckiest girl in the world!

Q: What is your secret weapon to lure in the opposite sex?
I’ve been told I have a lot of personal charm, when I decide to use it. I dunno- I’ve put on too much weight and it’s been a long time since I was on the market. I forget how to flirt!

Q: Are you too shy to ask someone out?
Well, I always was, until the night Ian and I got together. Now, I’d known him for years and I knew he fancied me, so it was a pretty safe bet, lol! We had quite a bit to drink when I bumped into him at a club after not having seen him for two years or so. We got to talking, and eventually I pounced on him (Dutch courage aplenty…). I then uttered the now-mortifying line “I fancy you, will you go out with me?” and the rest is history. Luckily for me, he was too drunk to escape that night. I’ve had him shackled in my basement ever since so he can’t get away… 😀

Some Questions of Personality:

Q: What gives you Pleasure in Life?
At the moment, sleep is such a rare and precious commodity that it has practically taken over my life! Joking aside, my family are the greatest pleasure I have in my life. They make me happy every day. I also love being outdoors and just looking around me at this beautiful world we live in. I don’t know I am born, it’s so beautiful here! Also, more selfishly, a nice meal and a good bottle of wine always go down well. Ian, are you taking notes???

Q: Would you rather be on time and look OK or 10 minutes late and look great?
I have an OCD streak about time keeping, so I will be ten minutes early at all times, and will look the same no matter what. This means a little bit of makeup (NOT too much as that stupid BITCH who commented on my restaurant review said, lol!!!), hair in a ponytail because Robbie will pull it otherwise, and a piece of toast stuck firmly to one shoulder from picking up one of the kids.

Q: Snooze button or jump out of bed?
Pre kids- jump out of bed. Post kids- praise the Lord that I am not already out of bed by the time the alarm goes off. Roll over, cuddle husband. Leave radio alarm on. Wait for kids to start yelling.

Q: What would you like to accomplish before you die?
I’d love to see my kids grow up to be rounded people who are valuable to society. If I can see that before I die, I will die happy in the knowledge that I did a good job! Oh, and travel a lot more.

Q: If you came with Instructions what would they say?
Fairly eccentric, has a sense of humour but it may not match yours. Tries to say the right thing but doesn’t always succeed. Hates disharmony and arguments, but will vociferously defend herself if necessary. Doesn’t hold grudges.

Q: What are three of your quilty pleasures?
Bad tv. Red and white wine. Eating whilst reading in bed (doesn’t happen any more since the kids came along but used to drive Ian batty!

Now post your own! 🙂

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